Listening Project

Ash describes how he lives his life in order to hide the fact that he is gay from his conservative, British Pakistani, Muslim family and reflects on how this makes him feel.

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  • Is part of (Collection)

    The Listening Project

  • Recording locations

    Dock House, MediaCity, Salford

  • Interviewees

    Ash, 1978- (male, lawyer)

  • Producers

    BBC Radio 4

  • Recordist

    Patel, Mohini

  • Abstract

    Ash describes his background, coming from a conservative British Pakistani Muslim family, and his upbringing in an English northern mill town. He recalls a happy childhood and his total self-acceptance on realising he was gay. Being unable to reveal the truth about his sexuality to his family he describes how he has found a way to live that satisfies the need for him to be married to a woman in order to keep his family happy and uphold the family honour. He ends by reflecting on his feelings about the deception this involves, over which he feels he has no choice.

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    The Listening Project conversations collectively form a picture of our lives and relationships today. Recordings were made by BBC producers of people sharing an intimate conversation, lasting up to an hour and on a topic of the speakers' choice.

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